Birth Plans

Nadia asleep in my arms.

There has been a lot of chatter about birth plans in the blogosphere. Expectant mothers dream about the idealized birth. Trouble is, labor and delivery can’t be planned. I have friends who wanted a natural birth and had a C-section. Some shunned drugs and then took them.

I knew I didn’t want to have surgery for my children to enter the world. I was open to everything else, including an epidural. I was induced both times and labored for a few hours. Thank goodness, I got my wish and didn’t have to have a C-section. If I had, I hope I wouldn’t be disappointed. I had two healthy babies. In the end that’s all that matters.

  • Melissa

    I like this quote from the article cited in your post: “Jessa, I think you should tell your friend that the point is not to have “a birth” but to have a baby. She should plan and prepare, but to understand that all that planning is to increase her knowledge of the process, not to turn this into a measure of her parenting or of her womanhood.”

    I just got through reading two historical biographies about life in the American colonies in the late 1600’s and early 1700’s. Women died in childbirth on an all too regular basis. (Many men had three wives over their lifetimes because of that.) Infant and child mortality was such that in one of the families I was reading about, only six out of their fifteen children made it to their teens. Then two of those six died giving birth to their own children. There were (and still are) no guarantees that life will be as we wish it to be.

    Perhaps some women today take for granted the healthy pregnancies we’ve come to expect. To say that the birth wasn’t “ideal” or the kind of experience she wanted is to completely ignore the whole reason for getting pregnant in the first place. It shouldn’t matter how the baby got here. We should be grateful that he/she got here at all. (Nadia is so precious, by the way!)

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