Inspiration

On March 16, 2010, in Biracial, by Honeysmoke

This April issue of Oprah is about real love, and the lead couple in the feature is a black nurse who is married to a white doctor. I am not surprised when I see such couples featured in magazines. But it was clear from the photo that Paula Davis and Charles Graff were not newlyweds. They have that look couples have when they have been together for a long time. They looked so … comfortable.

Well, they have been married for 45 years, which is three years longer than the landmark case Loving v. Virginia. In 1967, the U.S. Surpreme Court ended all race-based restrictions on marriage. When the Graffs tied the knot in 1964, interracial marriage was illegal in 19 states.  They are a remarkable couple. It had not occurred to me that there would be mixed-race couples who had been married for nearly half a century.  How inspiring.

Anchor Soledad O’Brien’s parents also were married before Loving v. Virginia. Listen to her story above.

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  • Angela

    I’m so glad you posted this! I’m biracial and my personal views on being biracial are very similar to Soledad’s. I don’t relate to views like the actress from Precious (her name escapes me at the moment) who has issues with it. No matter how the world views you, you are what you are. You can’t erase you’re white mother (or whoever) just because you look black, or ‘talk black’, etc. If a people see a certain effeminate ‘metrosexual’ straight man as gay, it does not make him such. I know that’s going off on a tangent, but I’ve always felt that the people who cause so much confusion, issues, and lack of identity for biracial people are the people who are NOT biracial (multiracial). I never thought about my identity, racially anyway, until as a teenager people asked whether I ‘felt more black or white’. Even today, I don’t think about it until someone brings it up. I think it’s great, like a bridge. We can bring all races together by really understanding each side, since that is who we are.

  • Liz

    How great to hear her story. So glad you shared this. I also really enjoyed what Esai Morales had to say about the movie industry. It made me think twice about which movies I will support with my money by going to see, and which ones I will pass by. It truly is important to take a step back and analyze our decisions as consumers.