Nominate Honeysmoke

On June 21, 2010, in Biracial, by Honeysmoke

Honeysmoke will celebrate its first anniversary in July. Folks used to be modest about their accomplishments. But that was before the World Wide Web. It is with that in mind that I ask for your vote in four 2010 Black Weblog Categories:

Best Parenting or Family Blog

Best Writing in a Blog

Best Personal Blog

Blog to Watch

All you have to do is click on the button in this post or in the the top right-hand corner of Honeysmoke.

Now for some tiny print: The Black Weblog Awards was founded in 2005 to give recognition to Black bloggers (and those of the African diaspora) which were largely overlooked by other Internet award events. The Black Weblog Awards is an international showcase with participants from over 90 countries and stands out as the most widespread Internet award event for Black bloggers. To date, the Black Weblog Awards has recognized nearly 180 blogs in over 30 categories, and has also been featured in several mainstream and online media outlets, including NPR. Winners of the Black Weblog Awards have also gone on to appear in other media outlets, like MSNBC, the Huffington Post, BET, the Washington Post, and many others. For more information,

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Why I Blog

On May 24, 2010, in Biracial, by Honeysmoke

This post is inspired by an item I read at See Theo Run. The blogger participated in the panel “Family Matters: Blogging the Parenting Experience” at the Northern Voice 2010 Personal Blogging and Social Media Conference.  I’ve been thinking a lot lately about why I blog. I said I would blog for a year and then decide whether I wanted to continue. The year is almost gone. I definitely will continue and expand the site. Stay tuned for more on that.

I’ve edited the questions and added one of my own. I know many of Honeysmoke’s readers are bloggers. I would love to see your responses here or on your own sites.

1. Complete this sentence. I blogto share my experience, provide resources to parents raising biracial and multiracial children, write openly about race, and help build a community of biracial and multiracial parents. It’s also fun to blog.

2. Complete this sentence. I do not blog foracceptance, money or free merchandise.

I am who I am, and I am cool with that. Advertisements would change the tenor and tone of Honeysmoke, and I don’t like how ads clutter some sites. Companies, public relations firms and marketers know when they give away items bloggers are more likely to give the product a good review. I own the books and products I write about on Honeysmoke. Sometimes I borrow books from the public library, and I always let the reader know when I do.

3. Have you established personal boundaries around the topics you blog about?

Yes. I steer clear of using words that appear innocent but that others search for not-so-innocent use. I know the day will come when the girls will ask me not to write about them. Until then, I try not to write anything I think they may find embarrassing later. Yes, I know I will fail miserably on this point. I also filter and moderate comments on the blog.

4. What do you think about the idea that a child’s image should be private (or shared only among friends and family) until they are old enough to decide for themselves?

I don’t use a lot of images of Simone and Nadia on the blog. I like to illustrate posts with photographs and images available under a creative commons license. When I do use pictures of the girls, the pictures are either old, small, taken from a distance, or their faces are obscured in some way.

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Author Blog Awards

On March 29, 2010, in Biracial, by Honeysmoke

I received an email, saying Honeysmoke had been nominated for the Author Blog Awards. Of course, all I need is umpteen million more nominations in order to make it to the next round. If you’re feeling generous, click on the badge to the right and nominate this or any other blog for the awards. Nominations end April 2.

From the main site: “The Author Blog Awards aim to honour the best blogs by both published and unpublished writers. They will recognise the writers who use their blogs to connect with readers in the most imaginative, engaging and inspiring ways. At the same time we hope to attract new audiences to these blogs and help readers find out more about the authors they love, and new authors too.

You can find out more about how to vote in the Author Blog Awards, and the prizes you can win from our supporting partners.
You can also check out Terms and Conditions for entry.”

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Keeping It Real

On September 15, 2009, in Biracial, by Honeysmoke

It turns out this blogging thing is taking hold, and Mama’s Experience Initiative has nominated Honeysmoke for the Honest Scrap blog award. It’s not just any award. It’s given to bloggers who keep it real. Of course, I have to nominate seven bloggers who represent the values of the award and tell my readers 10 honest things about me.

Here is my list of nominees.




Confessions of a Mean Mommy

I Am The Glue

Musings of a Moxie Mama

More to Love Sketchbook

10 things about me? Let’s see if I can come up with something.

1. If I were a car, I’d be a compact. I would not take up too much room and could zip around corners.

2. If I were a pair of shoes, I’d be ballet slippers. I enjoy comfort over everything else.

3. If money were no object and I could go anywhere in the world, I’d travel around the world — twice. I might as well see everything.

4. If I could live anywhere, I’d choose New York City. A house in the country also would be nice.

5. If I could chat with anyone for 15 minutes, I’d pick Oprah Winfrey. She’s a successful business woman, plain and simple.

6. If I knew I would survive, I’d parachute from an airplane. That’s about as far as my adventurous side goes.

7. If I could rid the world of one thing, I would choose poverty. That would pretty much take care of everything else.

8. If I could change one thing about me, I’d give myself a lot more patience. A lot more patience.

9. If I could run away to a deserted island, I’d take my hubby and kids with me. Even a busy mommy like me would get lonely after a few days.

10. If I had a dream, it would be to get a literary agent, get a six-figure book contract, appear on the New York Times best-seller list for an untold number of weeks, pay off all of my bills, and live happily ever after.

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Tress Love

On September 11, 2009, in Biracial, by Honeysmoke

powdersI was in the mall the other day in search of a charm for a bracelet. I found it and was making a getaway when a woman at one of those mall kiosks distracted me. She wanted to know something about my curls. I saw the flat irons displayed on the kiosk and tried to wave her off.

“How do you get it so curly?”

“It’s natural.”

She seemed surprised, but that didn’t stop her from showing me how a curling iron uses steam to make beautiful curls.

“I don’t use  heat,” I said.

“So, what do you put on your hair?”

“Conditioner, and I seal with oil.”

“What kind?”


The nice lady was hawking “European oil.” She squirted some in my hand, instructed me to rub my hands together, and scrunch it in my hair. I took a look in the mirror and was met with shiny hair.

“Nice, huh?”

I nodded. “What’s in it?”

She handed the bottle to me. The first ingredient was olive oil. The second and third were not-so-water-soluble silicones.

She thought she had me. The little bottle of oil could last me for three years and was great for my “ethnic hair.” It only costs … $39. What? For $39, an oil had better do more than quench the thirst of my dry hair.

“No, thank you,” I said.

She asked a few more questions and then offered the bottle to me for $29.

“No, thank you.”

“What would it take for you to buy it?” she wanted to know.

“Nothing,” I told her. “I use ayurvedic powders and just bought some.”

She looked at me like I was speaking another language – I guess I was — and thanked me for my time.

Five years ago, before I had kids, I may have been tempted to buy the overpriced oil. I didn’t know sulfates dry out hair or that silicones coat the hair. I certainly didn’t know I could find excellent hair products on grocery store shelves. I was, well, let’s not say it. What I know about hair I learned from these sites. Have a look for yourself.

Naturally Curly: The site is celebrating its 10th anniversary. A wealth of products, salon recommendations, and advice keep me coming back for more.

Curly Nikki: I get a serious case of hair envy when I visit the site. Curly Nikki is known for her beautiful tresses, the twist-n-curl, and henna. Those who are transitioning will feel at home here.

Mane and Chic: A mix of hair and fashion makes this a go-to blog. I always feel a little more hip after a visit.

From Nature With Love: This is a playground for mixtresses and wannabes like me. There are several sites online that cater to kitchen chemists. This one, though, has a page featuring ayurvedic herbs.

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Link Love

On September 4, 2009, in Biracial, by Honeysmoke


This week my blogging travels took me to sites I never thought I’d visit. No, not those kind of sites. These kind of sites.

Beauty Inside and Out — This site features an eclectic mix of topics. The author posts about plastic surgery, laser rejuvenation techniques, fashion, politics, art, interior design, and recipes. This is also day five of a week of giveaways.

Wrestling with Retirement — If you’re looking for a good laugh, you’ll find one on this site. A retired high school teacher with a huge sense of humor writes this site. I promise you will visit again and again.

Moxie Mama — This is a no nonsense mommy site. Don’t dare go there thinking you’ll receive a nice hug and a pat. The site tackles mommy issues head on and doesn’t try to dress them up and make them look nice.

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